It is Mothers Day weekend and for some women, like yourself, this will be your first ever Mother’s Day day as a new mother. Congratulations. Embrace and enjoy the day. Oh my, what a blessing you have been given. A day to celebrate you…only you. Can you think back to the moment when you found out that you were pregnant? When the doctor confirmed your new status with the lovely words, “congratulations you are pregnant”. What thoughts went through your head and crossed your heart? Delight. Fear. Joy, Trepidation. Giddiness. Scared. Any or all of the above and then some?
Soon afterward, you got to hear the heartbeat for the very first time. Oh that sound. Then the glorious day came…the drinking of a gallon of water so that you could have the ultrasound…pressing on your filled tummy (are you kidding)… the gender to be revealed (or not). Boy. Girl. Confirmed. Leave it? Check up. Then baby shower? Diaper shower? Another check up. Gender reveal shower? Register your baby? Another check up. Thinking of name – yes no maybe so jolly go pepper merry go round of people giving their 25 cents? Baby room? Hospital visit? Another check up. Birthing classes? Advice? from all over, everyone and their mother. Body changing dramatically. Did you think it was going to ever end? Well yeah…baby came… early or late or on time…baby arrives on baby time. And that’s the name of that tune. It is all about baby. Happy Mothers Day, life as you know it just got better.
Oh guppy mama. You are a newbie, born to a new world that you have not yet discovered until now. Holding your new baby in your arms with unbelievable love shining through your eyes as you look at her or him, a preciousness of life. No one knows what it is like to be a mother until you become one; life-changing beyond measure. This fragile tiny being is yours, dependent on you for everything. I have to say now and will say it again and again, there are no set clear instructions here; no chapter 10 p. 121 paragraph 3 page you can turn to. You, baby mama, are it. But you are no alone…just do not google everything. Please and thank you.
This day honours you as you begin to build a relationship that is crazy, intense, maddening, frustrating, unconditional love connection from day one. Respecting your role as you navigate motherhood, you need to know your are valued, worthy, loved. It takes a deal of great courage and strength to be present each and every day to this little one who basically pees, poops, eats, burp, sleeps, cries and repeats. First borns are like you, little mama, only they come first. They are learning to live in this world as you are. Only you do not get to pee, poop, eat, burp, sleep, cry and repeat as much as you would like. Nor do a heck of lot of other things…you know watch a full TV show or have a long bath or coffee with the girlfriend….get the picture. The thing is you do not know what you do not know and baby is totally beautifully unknowingly selfish. It is all about them. Boy things have come full circle. Anyway, you realize you have to figure out how to be a mom while holding baby. Welcome to motherhood.
Recently my oldest daughter had her first baby, a baby girl. She is coming up to two months now. Oh my goodness, how time flies! And being a mother of three daughters myself, I can attest to that; where does the time go? Over the last few weeks, my daughter has shared some thoughts in becoming a mother. I tear up and am most grateful in her celebration and to this day to honour her and others as new mothers. Here’s to your own stories as I share a little snippet of my daughters thoughts with her permission…
“Sleeping is so much easier that the first week. LOL…I love her so much and it is so satisfying to get her to settle when she is so upset. I am finding rocking her on the chair helps out….she likes me to walk and sway her. But I have to watch her head moving around.”
“Just had a big poop and a bottle. We didn’t get a burp out of her…PS she has a set of lungs. She cried and swatted at me until daddy brought her bottle. She is such a hungry girl….she projectile peed when I changed her LOL. She is the best”
“Anytime I gently place her in the play pen she wakes up. Hopefully tonight she will sleep….she spit up one of her bubbas so it took a bit to calm her as she needed to eat again…she is so helpless when those things happen but she has mommy and daddy to protect and her through it.”
“She even gave me smiles early this morning when she had changed and feed around 4:30 am. I want to believe they are smiles and not gas….I love being a mom, she is my whole day….I am so excited for the day when she starts to genuinely smile. I will probably cry.“
Happy Mothers Day to all the new mothers. You are so blessed this day.
Let us pray for those in need and to all the mothers, grandmothers, stepmothers, and all who are new to motherhood (or grandmother hood – best ever let me tell you)