You know when you plan for something and it does not quite work out the way you had hoped. There is an anticipation that comes inside you that gets you excited or hopeful of a something different. You make plans to do something out of the ordinary, envisioning scenarios of what might take place. Your mind takes on a life of its own. Then voila…a curve ball or maybe a spit ball in this case. An unexpected turn of events which of course you have to change your course of thinking and action. Unprepared for the detour, there are feelings that are attached to the plan. One’ s that you can fully appreciate because you were really looking forward to do ‘whatever’ it was.
Those sensations rising up inside you can be described as a wee bit of a tsunami. LOL. Not funny at the time mind you. And you feel the need to express yourself to let those feelings out. It is not good to hold it in but there are times when we do so as not to hurt another person’s sensitivities. So you go find a space to let out the pent up emotion. It might come out like a growl….. GRRRRR. Or maybe the ever popular expression of “are you kidding me??”. Me, I don’t do the swearing as i am a Family or PG rated person but the a ‘go to’ for many individuals would be the bucketful of curse or swear words. Be that as it may, I prefer to revert to the phonemic verbiage of nonsensical wordage. Words that come out of the mouth and sound like “sheesh”, “huh”, and a favourite of mine “harrumph”. It is wondrous expression of phoneming a colloquial English language in the heat of the moment. Yeah? Yes.
I have to say that I like that word harrumph just as an aside. I have to laugh because I really had to look up the spelling of it. Harrumph does exist along with many synonyms that go with it….LOL. So if one is in a real mood to explode due to an unexpected change in plans then one can resort to mild forms of the #@*# such as Tut, yada yada yada, phooey, Boohoo, uh-uh, OW, TSK, OOPS, uh-oh, achoo, Hah, blah, Bam, UH, whoops, ZZZ, shush, Cor, er, DUH, Tut. Who would have thought!!!
But really at the end of the day, it is an “oh well” with a shrug. A shrug of the shoulders and deep sigh knowing full well as John Lennon has often been quoted as saying, “life happens to you while you’re busy making other plans’. FYI: Quote supposedly is coined by a fella Adam Saunders in 1957 from Reader’s Digest. Anyhoooo…. I guess it comes down to looking at one’s plans of whatever and whenever and however and then smile. It’s all good.
For you cannot do anything about the unexpected. Can you? Maybe it is the human failings in us where we cannot so easily roll with the punches or accept what is? Life happens. It really does when we want to do one thing and something takes place that really we cannot do anything about. And it sucks, big time. But oh well. What do you do when you live in a shoe? Well, you walk. It cannot be helped that someone got sick or got called away or had a conflict or a meltdown or got the call ‘need to take a raincheck’ or mom said no. All valid, all real, and all hopelessly inconvenient. And so….ugg. harrumph. grrr.
So how to let go? How to turn a lemon into lemonade? How to accept the inevitable? How to remind oneself that it’s all good. Maybe come up with the silver lining attitude. There is a reason for everything even if the reason is not evident at the time.
Well, letting go of the disappointment to one’s plans takes a hot minute for sure. And some people are really really good at it. Bless their hearts; while others, not so much. And that is okay for one can only be oneself. Here are some thoughts to consider on your plate with a bit of wit on the side:
EI People Deal With Disappointment
Take a moment and …..wallow. (yes gotta be real before adulting)
Do a reality check….is it that bad? (yes but no)
Go high when hit with a low blow. (not getting high; take the high road)
Don’t stew in negativity. (roast in positivity)
Put things into perspective. (who peed in your soup?)
Develop positive thinking muscles. (wonder what they look like)
Breathe your way to a clear mind. (watch out for hyperventilating)
Plans change. Plans derail. Well, harrumph. Blessings.
Let us pray for those who are in need of our prayers today. Amen